THIS TIME LAST YEAR

You know on facebook how sometimes in the sidebar you can see your status from the same day in previous years? Well I was just looking in my diary- I keep a health diary otherwise it would all be a blur! On 27-10-10 I had one of the worst days of my illness to date. I had been unwell for days but resisting it like you wouldn’t believe. On the preceding labour day Monday I had been at a lunch BBQ with friends when pain struck, instead of causing a scene I tried to hold it in, by the end of the BBQ I quietly called my sister to collect me and vomited the whole way home just from the gravity of the physical pain.

Two days later on the 27^th my younger sister (who also suffers from endo) took a bad turn and I had to rush her to the hospital, Mum was at work and so I stayed with my sister until mum got to the hospital in the early afternoon. I was still in considerable pain and feeling awful so I went home as soon as Mum arrived. On the drive home I got progressively worse, I recall joking to myself that I might as well turn around and go back to the hospital. I got home and lay down for a short time before the pain got really bad really fast; in addition to this I had terrible bowel symptoms so was back and forth to the bathroom.  I reasoned with myself that if I could get back to my bed and take more pain relief I might be able to get it under control – it was the first time I had been by myself when the pain was this bad and I was struggling to decide what to do.

As I walked back into my room I was struck down with an incredibly sharp pain which must have caused me to black out. The next thing I remember was the sensation of carpet fluff in my mouth and a great throbbing lump on my head, I had clipped the desk with the side of my head on the way down. Needless to say the fall did not help with my decision making and I remember becoming a bit hysterical and feeling frightened. At that moment like a little blonde angel my youngest sister came home. I should have asked her to call an ambulance but I didn’t want to freak her out so I gave her my other sister’s (I have 4 sisters) work phone number and she rang and told her, in a very casual voice I might add, to come and take me to the hospital. In the midst of all that had happened I had sort of forgotten that my other sister was already in the hospital.

A couple of the nurses looked at me with déjà vu when they read my surname and before I knew it Mum was also by my side. Poor Mum had to race from one end of the emergency department to the other for several hours trying to support us both. In the end once we were both stabilised they put us in the same room together which made things slightly easier. My sister ended up being admitted and I was free to go (thank-god!). We were all very glad to see the end of that day, it stretched our family to the max and as usual Mum was the rock holding it all together for us. She even managed to kick up a good old stink so that the specialist decided to bring my procedure forward GO MUM!

The panic and despair I felt that day when I was alone was something I hope I never ever have to experience again. Thank-you to my wonderful support network (you know who you are) for always being there. Your love, help and support reinforces me it makes me stronger than I think I can be and carries me along when all my fight is gone. I love you guys.

DRUGS...NOT THE FUN TYPE

So far in my journey of illness I have become acquainted with many different drugs and medications. When I first met some of them I thought they may be a one night stand sort of arrangement, some of them carried on for a dirty weekend together, others continued to affairs with dramatic consequences, and some have entered into serious long term relationships with me (a whether you like it or not sort of scenario!).

It was at the onset of this next bout of sickness that I became so unwillingly reliant on constant pain relief. Medication was the only thing that gave me a chance at staying out of hospital. In addition to the endometriosis pain I began to get an incredibly sharp pain in my left hip and running down the front of my thigh. This pain nearly always coincides with the endo pain, and after ruling out injury or mechanical causes my GP found that the two must be linked. So in came another constant companion to me and my medication; a bright green walking crutch. The embarrassment quickly dissipated when I discovered how much easier it was to limp along with the help of the crutch. Although over time that too became a burden, not only did I get sore arms and hands, but the surrounding house and furniture also took a bit of a hiding due to my lack of coordination.

I had spent more than my fair share of time in hospital so I was avoiding that place like the plague. September, October and November went past in a blur of pain and medication. I was still trying to go to uni and had just started a new job which I loved and my diary is full of entries like: “to take pains meds and be veged out in class and not take on any information, or to suffer in pain and not take on any information?” and “please please let me make it through work tonight, this job is going so well, I really don’t wana let them down...again”. My daily life was becoming a trade off with pain relief.  I was putting a lot of pressure on myself and it might sound silly but now I look back and I’m glad I did, without that pressure I don’t know if I would have done as well mentally through that time as I did.

During this time period mum and I were investigating and trying quite a few natural and alternative therapies, some of them worked a bit in the short term, but many of them were expensive with varying results. I began to tire with them and decided to try the conventional path again. It was time for a little less conversation and a little more action please!

WHATEVER NEXT?

So now we are up to B-semester 2010 and all-in-all it was going quite well. Grades were okay and I was able to work casually too. From memory nothing stands out that much from this period. I think I have a diary entry around this time that says: “man I’m crap at keeping diaries now, when I was in hospital I wrote everyday..... just clicked why that is – I have BETTER things to do with my time now yeeeehaaaar!”. Around this time I got some of myself back. I went from being constantly worried about getting sick or being a burden, to only letting it cross my mind a few times a day. I enjoyed socialising again, and my friends (bless them) were happy to pick up right where we left off, there were many MANY toasts to good health. For a few weeks I got back into the driver’s seat of my own life again, granted my health had only moved to the passenger’s seat, I was still the one in charge...or so I thought.

University semesters are divided into 6 week blocks with a two week break in between them. At the beginning of the break after the first half I felt knackered, I had put in a lot of hard work during the semester so I was looking forward to a rest. As fellow students are probably already aware you always get sick in the holidays, it’s like the minute you slow down the whole semester catches up with you. This is something I am familiar with so I didn’t think too much about feeling unwell for the first few days. In the middle weekend of the break when the pain came back worse than ever I was completely overwhelmed. Had it not been for debilitating pain I would have thrown my arms skyward and screamed: “Are you serious? Really? What the F**k now!” because that is exactly how I felt.

Before I realised what was happening, there it was again, that big black cloud lingering over me. Fear. How was I going to cope with this again? Did I even have it in me? Is this how it’s always going to be? Why didn’t my surgery work? Will I fail my university papers? Will I lose my job? Can my support network be by my side...again?  At the time I remembered a story book that mum read to us as a child, and after a series of unbearable and unexpected events the main character, exasperated, declares “Whatever Next”... that sums it up!

Spoke To Soon...

I was able to enjoy approximately 36 hours of my own bed after being discharged before I was rushed back into the emergency department. My concerns about being discharged so soon after surgery were confirmed. After the pain was addressed the doctor on duty wanted to check my wounds for infection. After looking at them he told me that one of the wounds was very unusual, this was a bit alarming so I asked him which one and what was wrong with it. He pointed to my navel piercing (there was no jewellery in it at the time) which I have had for about 10 years and had long since healed. When I told him what it was he did not seem at all phased and left without saying anything.

This marked the beginning of another on/off stretch in hospital. It was during this time that I contracted several different illnesses simply from being in hospital; firstly a (not so) super bug which was gastro hell, then the flu, topped off finally with an eye infection. Needless to say I was frothing at the idea of being outta that joint for good! I had had A-semester off university for obvious reasons and I was really keen to try and get back to study if my health improved. I hoped and prayed like crazy that I would soon feel the benefits of the surgery. Thankfully about 2 months after the operation I was, for the first time in 6.5 months, feeling okay. I wasn’t feeling great and I wasn’t pain free but I was able to enrol in B-semester and carry on with my studies at a local campus affiliated with my university.

Much to my delight, the academic part of my brain seemed to have come through the hospital experience relatively unscathed. After spending 6 months either lying or sitting down doing sweet fanny all it was quite enjoyable to be interacting with my class mates and learning new things. Life was looking cheery, I was getting good marks, I was getting over a no-good relationship, I had good family & friends around me and if I squinted and stared out into the distance I could almost see a hint of happiness on the horizon.